Journey with You

It’s not just about saying “No”, it’s an attitude problem. We think, anyway.

Yes, he will say no for pretty much anything, if he is not in the good or cooperative mood, from taking a nap, eat, pee, poo, brush teeth, get changed, or simple wash hands. We know this is the normal behavior among two year olds.

However, saying no is not the only thing for my son.

Ever since he started walking, we always remind him to stay on the sidewalk whenever we’re outside. We told him how the street is for cars and cars are dangerous. Since then, he likes to keep saying “I want to be hit by a car” whenever we are around cars. One time I was holding his hand walking cross a parking lot. He saw a car coming and he suddenly let go my hand and stopped in the middle of the parking lot, said “I want to be hit by a car.”

He also likes to stand at the edge of the bed, says “Cyrus falls down.” Even though we took the bed frame out so it’s fairly low, we do live at the 2nd floor and what if that’s what he thinks when he stands by the windows?

I picked him up from the daycare yesterday. I asked him if he wanted to take the elevator or the stairs. He chose stairs. As we walked downstairs, he started saying: “Cyrus falls downstairs.” I said: “Why do you want to do that? You’ll get hurt and Mommy and Daddy will be very sad.” He answered me: “I want Mommy and Daddy to be sad.” Then he also pointed at t a stranger downstairs and said: “I want that man to be sad.”

See? This is the kind of bad attitude I’m talking about. It’s not simply about saying no to our requests. We’re actually a little bit worried where this is all coming from, how serious he actually is when he says those things, and if there is any potential psychological issues we need to be concerned.

My conversation with Cyrus last night…

I just realized he pooed in the diaper. I said: “Cyrus, you stink!” He said: “How much?”

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He was building a house with wooden blocks.
“What a nice building. Who lives there?” I said.
“Daddy.”
“Who else?”
“Cyrus.”
“Who else?”
“People.”
“Any people.”
“Yes.”
“How about Mommy? Does Mommy live there?”
“No.”
“Where does Mommy live then?”
“Mommy lives on Sesame Street.”

Height: 35 3/8 inches, about 90 cm
Weight: 30.4 lbs
Head: 51 cm

Overall a very smooth doctor visit other than the time trying to get him to stand on the scale. He had a little nice conversation with the doctor and even remembered the equipment on the wall is for the eyes and ears.

We’ve asked about his weight being a little above average and height below average. We thought maybe that meant his being a little over weight. However, the doctor seemed to think the extra weight is from his above average size head. Well, DH and I are both happy with his head size all along.

We also discussed with the doctor about his running nose, worrying he’s got DH’s allergy to cat and dog hair since our tenant has a cat. Doctor said we need the blood work to find out what he is allergic to. We also notice that Cyrus’ been having some kind of rash on his right arm for a couple months now. We tried a few different lotions and they don’t seem to help any. The doctor took a look and said it could be either Psoriasis or Eczema. He sent us to the dermatologist. So far, even the dermatologist doesn’t have a diagnosis. We are trying the prescribed medicine from the dermatologist and we hope it will help.

Cyrus woke up at usual time on Sunday and we were still half asleep. He grabbed a book next to the bed and said to me: Mommy read.

I tried to ignore him at first so he raised his voice and demanded “Mo…mmy read!”

I said: “Can you ask nicely?” He said: “Please.”

I wanted him to use a full sentence to ask me, like “Mommy, would  you please read to me?” We’ve been trying to teach him something like this for a while. So I said: “the other way.”

What he did next was to turn himself around, back towards me, and said “Please.”

I guess he sure knows what “the other way” means. XD

Time really goes faster than blinking once you have a child. Amazing.

Some reflections on how I’ve been doing for the past 24 months. There is a lot of try-and-error and they are all worth being written down. Here are a list of things that I would do again when we have another child and things that I am hoping to do differently.
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